It’s clearly her choice, and the more clearly it seems like her choice, the better it is for me. To me, in a twisted way, it seems like one of the few things that couldn’t secretly still be rape. The one thing uniting them all - and often clouding the experience - is a pretty weighty level of anxiety. One guy in his 20s told me he’d do anything to avoid his wife placing her lips near his gone-to-seed pubic area, while another earnestly confessed that he asks his boyfriend to suck his dick at least seven times a night. I grilled men in bars and over the phone and G-chat until I was satisfied with the quality of their description of what is supposedly the most highly savored sexual act.Īs the selection of ten we’ve picked out below demonstrates, the answers were (predictably) varied. Men explain things to women all the time, but they never seem to tell us what we really want to know: What does a blow job actually feel like? In order to get some answers, I canvassed strangers, friends, and friends of friends. “As though I am a wild dolphin running through the ocean.”
